Commitment isn’t a scary word, at least not if he’s serious about you. Keep reading if you want to know the signs he wants a serious relationship with you.


Guys give all kinds of mixed signals. One minute he can’t keep his hands off you. Next, he needs space. Honestly, how can you know the signs he wants a serious relationship with you?!

Sometimes, a guy may confuse you, leading you to believe that he wants a relationship with you when really, he simply wants something that’s no-strings-attached.

This feeling sucks, we know, which is why you need to see the red flags before you fall head-over-heels for him. You should try to be honest with yourself if you see red flags early on that indicate that he is not truly interested in going further with you.

[Read: 34 very big relationship red flags most women ignore early in a relationship.]

Why doesn’t he want a serious relationship?

Let’s talk about why a guy may NOT want a serious relationship for a bit here before we look at the right signs. When you observe the signs and realize that he doesn’t want a serious relationship with you, it’s always best not to take it personally.

It’s not that he doesn’t want one with you, but this goes for any girl he comes across with. When a guy says he isn’t ready, he’s still fixing himself, or whatever lame excuse he comes up with, it’s best to believe him.

There’s no changing his mind and frankly, it’s not up to you to do so. A guy can refrain from a relationship possibly because of his past, an awful childhood, having the wrong set of priorities, immaturity, or fear of commitment.

There are a lot of factors at play and most often, it’s because of an internal issue they haven’t faced and healed from yet.

[Read: 20 signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you and just wants a bit of fun]

15 signs he wants a serious relationship with you and wants to commit to you

There are many signs that can be a good giveaway that a guy is indeed serious about you, but these signs are foolproof ways to know for sure if he wants to be exclusive with you or not.

1. He tells you about his goals

A guy who is serious about you will tell you about his life goals and his dreams. This is his way of letting you know what he wants to achieve in life, and of seeing if you are both going down a similar life path. If he’s not, he won’t even bother sharing his life goals with you.

The reason he does this is to give you a sense of what he envisions in his future and what he’s deeply driven about.

But if you ask about his goals and he repeatedly shuts himself off, diverts the topic, or just skims the idea without going into details, he’s not that serious about you, at least not yet. [Read: 14 undeniable signs he wants to spend his life with you]

2. He introduces you to friends and family

Mentioning you or introducing you to his family and friends is one of the best indicators that he wants to be exclusive with you.

When a guy is not serious about someone, he will not take the time to integrate them into his world. If anything, this is one of the obvious signs he wants a serious relationship with you.

Guys don’t just let anyone into their life and their circle, so if he introduces you to his loved ones, you should feel special! Nothing makes it more clear whether or not he wants something serious than him telling his family and friends about you, and what you mean to him. [Read: Does he really love you? 20 sure signs to read his mind]

3. He expresses his feelings freely

One of the signs he wants a serious relationship with you is when he shows you his vulnerable and honest side. Most men don’t like showing this side of themselves to just anyone as it shows weakness and flaws in their perspective. So if he does express his feelings to you, he’s serious about you.

When he gets to know you and his mushy side starts to show, then you are definitely heading down the path of commitment. It takes a lot for a guy to be emotional, and it is a true sign of trust when he shows you his emotional side.

Otherwise, if you’re just a fling, you won’t get any vulnerability out of him. [Read: 10 signs he’s faking love just to sleep with you]

4. He includes you in his future

Another great sign that he wants a relationship with you is if he includes you in his future plans. If he begins to say ‘we’ this or ‘we’ that, then he wants to get serious with you. A guy who does not see himself with someone will not visualize himself with the person he is just dating to pass the time.

He obviously cares about you enough to include you in his plans, whether short-term or long-term ones. He’ll include you in his business plans or life goals; he’ll include you in family gatherings, and more.

Guys can be quite scared of commitment when it isn’t the right girl, so this is an important indicator of whether he’s serious. [Read: 25 signs he really loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]

5. He spends a lot of time with you

The way he makes time for you is one of the important signs he wants a serious relationship with you. If he enjoys your company and digs your vibe, then he will always make time for you. Even if it is just to see your face for a second during a video chat in the middle of the day, that is still making time for you.

Guys are practical, and if spending time with you makes them feel good, then they will jump through hoops to be with you. Time is an investment in a future with you, and he will get to know more about you the more time he spends with you.

But if he’s not serious, then he won’t even bother showing up or giving you a portion of his time. Another great indicator is if he always initiates plans for you and him to spend time together.

6. He doesn’t play games

If a guy is serious about a future with you, then he will not play games. You know, those silly little games like ignoring your calls/texts, leading you on, saying one thing then doing another, and so on.

He won’t even bother confusing you with all these mind games and mixed signals if he’s serious about you, as he knows it’ll mess his chances entirely of winning your heart. If you continuously find yourself questioning his intentions and where the two of you stand, then walk away.

Again, guys are straightforward and logical, so he will not waste time playing games with someone he sees himself with. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend you should never ignore]

7. He stops seeing other people

Really, you should not have to second guess if he is serious about you if he stops seeing other people. He is so enthralled with you that you are enough and he does not need to look for anyone else. If you’re the only person he cares about seeing because you make him happy and nobody else can take your place, that’s a pretty obvious sign right there.

If he does not want to be exclusive with you, then he will make it clear that he wants to continue to test the waters with other people. He’ll have a backup in case things don’t work out with you if he’s not serious about you. [Read: Does he love me? 37 signs he’s past like and totally in love with you]

8. He tells you that he wants to settle down with you

Finally, there is no surer sign of whether or not he wants to commit to you than him telling you that he wants to be with you, and you alone. All doubts, questions, and worries will cease as soon as those words leave his mouth.

Again, guys are pretty scared of commitment so the fact that he says he wants to settle down is one of the concrete signs he wants a serious relationship with you. This means he doesn’t see himself with anybody else other than you!

If you really like him and your goal was always to be with him, then you can smile, knowing that you finally won his heart. If his actions match his words, that’s how you can know for sure. [Read: 18 signs a man is emotionally attached to you and ready to get even closer]

9. He doesn’t run away when you mention labels

If it isn’t apparent by now, guys don’t like the mention of labels and commitment. But if he doesn’t run away whenever you mention it or when it comes up, he’s not afraid of committing himself to you.

This is because he really wants to be with you, and he’d be more than happy to put a label on your relationship given a chance. But if a guy isn’t serious about you, he’ll avoid that topic entirely and change the subject abruptly. [Read: What are we? How to get your crush to label your relationship]

10. His actions match his words

When he says something sweet and romantic to you, he doesn’t just leave it at that. When a guy is serious about you, he’ll match his actions with his words. So he’ll do his best not to disappoint you or let you down when he makes a promise. He won’t flake and will live up to the promise because you matter to him.

But if he isn’t serious about you, he doesn’t care about delivering through with his words or disappointing you. If you’re a fling, that’s all you’ll ever be.

11. He prioritizes you

Look, guys have a lot of priorities, more than what meets the eye. If he prioritizes you, this is one of the signs he wants a serious relationship with you. Guys don’t just prioritize anyone along with their family and friends, career, and hobbies.

The fact that he prioritizes you over most things speaks volumes about how serious he is with his intentions for you.

On the other hand, if he isn’t into you for the long haul, other things will always come first above you, such as partying with his friends, career, and hobbies. [Read: The right priority in your relationship – How to find & focus on it]

12. He listens to you

It might seem like such a mundane action, but when a guy listens to everything you say, he’s pretty serious about you. This is because listening shows that he cares and that he acknowledges everything you say. Especially when he remembers even the little details from all your stories and rants, that’s when you know for sure.

After all, why else would a guy listen and remember these details if you’re just a fling?

13. He helps you whenever he can

Maybe it’s running errands for you or grabbing your favorite coffee, but if a guy helps you in the best way he can, it’s one of the signs he wants a serious relationship with you. If you’re just a casual fling for him, he won’t even bother helping you with anything.

The motto of a guy without serious intentions is to avoid having any strings attached, and helping you would mean the possibility of having strings. So if he helps you, he’s serious about you.

14. He shows you his flaws

This is a really huge indicator when it comes to the signs he wants a serious relationship with you. When he shows you his flaws and his not-so-perfect side, his intentions for you are serious.

Nobody likes showing others their flaws, so the fact that he’s willing to show even the unfavorable parts of himself to you speaks volumes about just how serious he is for you.

15. He opens up about his past

The past isn’t really a great topic to talk about with anyone as it reveals baggage and a lot of drama and pain. But if he opens himself up to the point where you know about his past and his pain, he’s serious about you.

This is one of the aspects a guy wouldn’t dare to share with just a fling, hookup, or any casual relationship. So if you know a lot of things about his past, he trusts you enough to tell you all of these things.

[Read: 25 signs he loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]

So, what are the signs he wants a serious relationship with you?

When a guy wants to be exclusive with you, he will make it known.

Remember to pay attention to his words and to his actions. If he includes you in his future, loves to spend time with you, stops seeing other people, and tells you he wants to be with you, then you two are on a clear path to commitment.

If you’re unsure about a guy, do not settle for games or always doubt if he wants something more with you, because it will drive you crazy. Just leave him behind, move on, and stay hopeful, because someone else was meant to be with you.

[Read: 33signs and qualities that make a guy a really good boyfriend]

So do you see these big signs he wants a serious relationship in your own love life? If you relate to most of these signs, there’s your definite answer! This could be your green sign to take things further and make things exclusive with him.

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